I hope you are all doing well 🙂 I wanted to talk about something that drives me crazy. Mom Shaming. Why do people do it? Is it to make them feel better about themselves? Is it because they have been mom shames? I know, it’s because they are the perfect mom and they have figured everything out, so they need to tell the rest of us how to do it. That must be it.
I don’t know about you, but it really upsets me when people mom shame. As a first time mom, let me say being a mom is hard enough. I baby sat a lot of kids before being a mom, I was even a nanny for four years. I started watching two girls ages 7 weeks and 6 years old. I know a few things about keeping kids alive, but when you have your own it’s a whole new ball game. One that would be so much easier if people helped with their “advice” instead of harmed.
I’m going to be honest, there is about two – three people I feel comfortable asking for advice when it comes to Gabriel (not including my mom). I know I can go to them and there will be no judgement. They are willing to answer and help the best they know how and they do it in such a kind way. Why can’t we all be like this? I will also say I don’t have all the answers, heck, I don’t have 1/4 of the answers. I’m honestly just winging this whole mom thing the best way I see fit. I don’t always get it right. But I do know that I have a happy and healthy baby that gets excited every time I walk in the room (unless Moana is playing of course).
Here’s my food for thought, whether you decided to circumcise or not, breast feed or formula feed, immunize, or don’t. Instead of throwing around your opinion (especially when it hasn’t been asked for) just listen. It is a struggle being a first time mom or a mom for the second, third, forth, so on time. We shouldn’t make mom’s feel any less because our opinion may differ from their opinion. It may not even be a difference of opinion some moms just can’t breastfeed and they don’t deserve to be made feel any less because someone things breast is best. So remember we are all moms are goals are probably all the same we want our children to grow up to be happy and healthy. So, instead of shaming one another, let’s help each other out.